Issue #006 / August 18, 2020
Do you know what a teenager thinks about ‘discussing depression’? Are you a teacher freaking out at the prospect of discussing taboo topics with your students? A parent concerned about internet safety for your child? A student worried about long hours of being cooped up inside without physical activity? What is your parenting mantra? What can you do to make remote teaching more effective? And finally, don’t miss the tune at the end for a jig with your family :). Enjoy reading this news letter that has something for students, parents and educators every week.
Three Images For The Week
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Two Thoughts For The Week
“A child free from the guilt of ownership and the burden of economic competition will grow up with the will to do what needs doing and the capacity for joy in doing it. It is useless work that darkens the heart. The delight of the nursing mother, of the scholar, of the successful hunter, of the good cook, of the skilful maker, of anyone doing needed work and doing it well, – this durable joy is perhaps the deepest source of human affection and of sociality as a whole.”—Ursula K. Le Guin, “The Dispossessed: An Ambiguous Utopia”
“Don’t limit a child to your own learning for he was born in another time.” – Rabindranath Tagore.
One Video For The Week
Taboo topics? yes. Reproduction. Sex. Gender. Religion. Race. Caste. Politics. Equity. Inclusion. Fairness. Justice. Drugs. Depression. Punishment. Consequence. Consent. Whether you are teacher or a parent, you must have faced it at sometime for sure or will face it as your child grows up to be an adult. How did you deal with it? Did you fight – shut down the conversation? Or flight – changed the topic quickly, diversion? Or froze – for some moments before just moving on to some other room or carried on with your task ignoring it completely? What would you have rather done?
Often deliberate avoidance of these taboo topics when they come into conversation speaks volumes to the students/children and they interpret it to be as taboo. Something to be embarrassed about, scared of, to be held as a secret, to go to other sources to seek answers or satisfy curiosity. Sources whose narrative you have no control over. Right? Here are some pointers from this 4th grade teacher to help you navigate these with your child/student. They have a right to think and discuss about it now for they will have to live it in the future.
Guest column

NATIONAL EDUCATION POLICY 2020—THROUGH THE LOOKING GLASS.
The MHRD’s New Education Policy has sent the country’s educationists into a tizzy. The new pedagogical and curricular structure of school education (5+3+3+4) is certainly a positive step towards reducing exam stress and the overt importance given to syllabus completion. However the new system endorsing the vernacular as a medium of instruction is difficult to implement. We don’t have a culturally or linguistically homogeneous population in each state to choose a common language. Text books will have to be now written in vernacular languages, which hasn’t been done even after 73 years of independence! Moreover there will be a dearth of trained qualified teachers in all subjects, who can effectively teach in vernacular.
When the MHRD is focusing on “Ten Bag Less Days” I am not sure whether they are referring to 10 days out of 200+ school working days, in an academic session, or are they referring to 10 days per month. Either ways it is too less for any child to learn a new skill or vocation. Also why not have complete bag less days? That is very much needed for both physical and emotional well-being of the students.
While the NEP talks about skill development and identifying the child’s potential by using AI, it all seems a bit ambitious when there is a dearth of schools in many parts of rural India. Instead of utilisation of unused school space as ‘Samajik Chetna’ centres, more attention can be given to providing basic infrastructure, blackboard, textbooks and trained teachers to the rural schools. Program for social awareness can be included as a continuous annual activity.
Regarding the training of teachers, the government should focus on training in new methodologies, across all boards with continuous assessment, and upgradation of knowledge which has been proposed by the introduction of NPST and ICT, in the NEP2020. What about assessment of both public and private schools which will allow parents and students to assess schools instead of the eyewash of an “inspection” that takes place? That certainly will lead to the qualitative improvement of schools.
However, other features like— flexibility of subject choices, inter-disciplinary teaching methodology, reduction of exam stress, extending RTE to 18 years, emphasis on technology as a teaching methodology are commendable. But what about those learners or teachers whose financial conditions are so dire that they cannot afford technology? That question remains unaddressed.
The efforts to create facilities for students to avail online courses of foreign universities, opening up funding opportunities, making Ph.D accessible to the highest group of learners, are certainly encouraging. The proposal of resource pooling for a cluster of schools is a great idea. The focus on making special provisions for ‘gifted students’, expanding the NIOS and standardising the sign language are also commendable.
While the NEP 2020 is certainly futuristic and ambitious – trying to foster holistic approach from the early childhood stage, it still requires more introspection. Especially when the World Bank’s report estimates that India has over 50 per cent of learning poverty we need to prioritise ideas before implementing it.
Parent speak
“I Want to be a Better Parent than my Parent”. Isn’t this natural? Wouldn’t our parents have tried to be better parents than their parents?

Being a professional career counsellor, I interact with parents, almost on a daily basis. During my discussion with them I always enquire : “What makes you a better parent than your parents?” And I hear a lot of – giving my child a variety of food, more chocolates, more pocket money and a never ending list of material things. These parents take pride in providing more material things. Of course, few of them also highlight more love, more discussions on life lessons and more mentoring. I wish to hear to more about togetherness – reading together, buying books together, playing together, cooking together, watching impactful movies together, relaxing together, cycling together, studying together, learning together, dreaming together and more.
Parenting comes with a lot of responsibility and as a blessing to see your extension. This role starts from the neonatal stage and each childhood memory has a lifelong impact on personal and professional life. To become self aware of our everyday habits, behaviours and communications with our child requires constant introspection. There may be many areas of parenting that you would like to perform better than your parents, but there would also be few areas of parenting in which your parents would have done a better job. Recollecting and reflecting on those and bringing them to practice can strengthen your bond with your child.
Is it easy? As easy as cooking food, playing cricket, coding for a new service? This is a full time job and if accepted with happiness then you are immersed in it and your child’s personality reflects your high spirits. Would you need help? Ofcourse. Talk to your elders, peers or mentors to seek guidance to ease this full time job. Is there a retirement age? Not really, because you don’t want to retire. This is like spending 14 years in ‘Banwas’ as Lord Rama and enjoying the fruits for life!
Then what is the magic that will work? Kids do what we do, and not what we say. You as a parent is the first role model in your child’s life. Though you cannot be perfect, but, you can improve everyday and grow to be a parenting mentor!
Student voice

Humorizing mental illness… Not cool!
Nowadays, I constantly come across people around me not exactly “mocking” mental illness but, using it to add a comical aspect to their current state of mind. If you are a part of Generation Z, I’m certain you have heard people say things like, “Oh my God, I’m so depressed,” “If she gives us more homework, I’m going to commit suicide or something,” or maybe “I’ve gained so much weight I wanna go anorexic.” Whenever I mention that I feel anxious about something or that certain things give me anxiety, I can always expect a slight chuckle from people. If said virtually, an “LOL.”
The problem with this is that it can invalidate the feelings of a person who actually suffers from a mental illness. Which means it can diminish the worth of the challenges someone is facing. Quoting The Times of India: Suicide isn’t fun. Lose a friend or family member and you will understand how real depression is. These jokes hurt people.
Now, I’m not going to sit here and pretend like I haven’t told my fair share of mental illness related jokes. The important thing is growing from your mistakes and knowing the impact your words have.
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I have been a research scientist, a journalist and an educator for over 3 decades. I read and I write. With this weekly newsletter, I intend to share what I read, learn and experience as I continue to engage everyday with students, parents and teams of teachers across K-12 schools, higher education institutions and ed-tech organisations.
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Issue #005 / August 11, 2020
Is education only about making people literate and getting better grades? Can boredom lead to brilliant ideas? How can you read faster and retain more? Can you rate your performance as a parent? And finally, twiddle your thumbs to tell a story. No really, not kidding. Go ahead and find out all this and some more in this week’s news letter.
Three Images For The Week
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Two Thoughts For The Week
“Study without desire spoils the memory, and it retains nothing that it takes in.”
— Leonardo da Vinci
“I realized that becoming a master of karate was not about learning 4,000 moves but about doing just a handful of moves 4,000 times.”
— Chet Holmes
One Video For The Week
“Users” is often used by technologists and drug dealers…Tech is designed to be addictive whether social media or gaming. Our attention is the product when the product is free…In current times when we are all online and on our gadgets, it is important to be mindful of the time spent and what we are using the tech for.
Do you sometimes have your most creative ideas while folding laundry, washing dishes or doing nothing in particular? It’s because when your body goes on autopilot, your brain gets busy forming new neural connections that connect ideas and solve problems.
Go ahead plan for some time to get “bored”! Turn your phones from task masters to tools.
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Educator of the week (By invitation)

Where the dignity is without fear!
As part of their English syllabus, my eighth graders, and I, were doing the story The Umbrella Man by the master storyteller Roald Dahl. The protagonist, ‘The Umbrella Man’, is a trickster who gets the better of an overtly cautious mother. This light-hearted story goes on to show how gullible human beings can be. Another facet of human nature was uncovered by grade 10, when studying David Roth’s ‘Nine Gold Medals’. The emphasis is on cooperation, collaboration and humanity brought by 9 differently abled athletes who help a fellow athlete when he stumbles and falls. In the end, they all hold hands to reach the finishing line together, making the Special Olympics that year very special indeed! In Grade 9, we talked about James Patrick Kinney’s thought-provoking poem, ‘The Cold Within’ which brings to fore the dogmas and mindsets people have.
This poignant comment on discrimination on the basis of religion, race and color seemed to find real-life examples closer to home: that evening I get a forward from a student about a certain outlet that was being targeted for discrimination. I was taken aback because I knew the people who run the outfit. They are humble, grounded, very professional and they worked very hard to get to the place they had. I went on to the read the comments below, the forwards and I was surprised at how many people felt that was the platform to air their grievances about the outfit. Not all the comments related to the incident in question in the first place. It became clear that people just wanted to be part of the circus, without any differentiation between fact and fiction. I felt social media is like giving a gun to a monkey. It will obviously fire away without applying any thought. Its focus is not on the people it hurts, but the action it can control (pulling the trigger). Similarly, social media, our trigger, allows us to ‘fire’ (click-clack on our keyboards and type away) and send our thoughts into the world. Unfettered and unfiltered, we are ‘trigger-happy’ without so much as a thought towards the damage.
This got me thinking really long and hard. I am not a social media person at all so pardon me if I sound like a novice (which I am). Is education only about making people literate and getting better grades? In short, what one spends imbuing into oneself for 16-22 years is just a fairy tale! Are we all so gullible that a post on WhatsApp or Facebook is followed without any application of mind? While undoubtedly they are great platforms to share one’s thoughts.
A child in my school — very talented and multifaceted, put up some well thought through posts during the pandemic. To her utter shock and disbelief few kids bad mouthed her to try and pull her down. She fortunately reached out and we stepped in. We spoke to all the children to show them the pitfalls of any action. They realised that it’s one’s own insecurity that leads them to be negative. Fortunately, these young minds admitted that they were jealous, and some said they were having some fun! I could understand the former, but the latter worried me!
Instead of making them thick skinned can we sensitise ourselves and our kids or for that matter figure our own insecurities?? And realise the effect of our actions. And see how vulnerable gullible we are.
The second side to this coin is that discrimination does definitely exist. There are places and pockets where people are judged on the basis of their dress, religion, status, skin-colour and their economic background. The reality is that people on all sides of this coin take advantage of the situation whenever and however they can.
So, the message our children grasp is ‘be fake’.
At a very subconscious level, we all tend to fall for words and actions, forgetting who we really are and what we stand for. We instinctively know when we are being put down. Sadly, we allow that. Instead, can we help them understand that they should not put themselves down in their own eyes. Our youngsters should know when and how to put people in their place, without sounding rude or brusque. Most importantly, keeping their dignity. Is this difficult? Certainly not. It needs effort and the willingness to look within and to accept that we are flawed. That these flaws can be corrected. Teach them to laugh at themselves. Accept and respect themselves for who they are, respect where they come from and acknowledge their values. Change themselves as long as they do not vamoose from their true selves. Finally, our dignity is in our hands. I have a choice to walk away. (not avoid); choice to politely put my foot down, make myself presentable but not skedaddle from my likes and dislikes – be it in my dress, my body type, my values and my upbringing and most importantly struggle to fit in. We all have a choice to recourse all the wrongdoings around us – by collaborating and cooperating in a positive manner for a positive outcome.
If we can enumerate with examples from the same world we live in like – Jesse Owens and Luz Long – the duo who went beyond the racist views of Der Fuhrer to show what a true sportsperson and true companionship is? Eunice Kennedy Shriver the large-hearted lady behind the special Olympics? James Patrick who actually stood up for fairness to all fellow humans? It is doable. The innumerable heroes in our own neighbourhood are testimony to that. They do their bit, neither hankering for a name nor getting influenced by the negativity. Are these people serious and solemn? Certainly not, they have a zest and zeal for life just like everyone. They just make sensible, sensitive and compassionate choices.
I am an eternal optimist who believes that our younger denizens can be empowered to build the mental strength and character. Believe deep down that this strength comes from the values we uphold. Yes, there will be slippery paths but then one can always anchor themselves again. I am a living testimony of so many students who are out there who are walking with dignity, standing up for what they believe and for themselves. You may look down at me and put me into the folder that reads ‘a naïve optimistic educator living in her cocoon’.
To all the naysayers, the world is still a good place to be in despite the scum! Because …
Parent speak

If parenting is an art, am I a good artist then?
If parenting is a duty, am I fulfilling it to the best of my abilities? If parenting is a full time job, am I getting my dues in return? If parenting is a way of life, am I experiencing and enjoying the journey?
When I was asked to write about parenting, the first thought that lit up was, “am I the right person?”What do I know about parenting, besides being a parent? Is that qualifying enough for presenting thoughts on parenting?
What am I doing as a parent? How is my performance rated?
Am I policing her? Disciplining her ? Nudging her to wake up early every day?
Can’t she wake up on time and be ready for the day? Don’t we have to give them the space to choose her study time, as long as she’s ready for life? Should I be at the helm of things and tighten the saddle all the time? Will she not own up to the responsibilities of her life?
Just because I had her in my womb, should I always have her under my thumb? Am I not crushing or squeezing her? Just because I feed her, should I choose her platter? Just because I was the reason for bringing her to this world, should I dictate terms for her life and living? Isn’t it her life? Just because I am her first teacher, should I impose my learnings on her? Doesn’t she have all her life for learning the tricks of the trade? Just because, I am her parent, should I expect her to report every tiny detail of her life. Am I issuing a COVID times’ e pass ? Shouldn’t she have some secrets for herself? Just because, I give her shelter, should I expect her to keep it spic and span at all times. Isn’t it fine, that I give her own time to clean up her mess, as long as she does it?
And many, many more questions queued up ahead and squarely faced me. Time flies. A few more years of theirs will be spent with us. A few more for them to build their own nest. Soon, we are left with the rest of our lives to complain about things scattered all around, not adhering to time, random eating habits, no one demanding a quick bite at odd hours…
Only memories of those moments that remain with us. Isn’t there a beauty in the mess? A pleasure in the efforts that you put in? A delight in all that you go through. Just for the love of your child?
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I have been a research scientist, a journalist and an educator over 3 decades. I read and I write. With this weekly newsletter, I intend to share what I read, learn and experience while I engage with students, parents and teams of teachers across K-12 schools, higher education institutions and ed-tech organisations.
3-2-1 Tuesdays with Ms Niv is a newsletter for you to subscribe and enjoy your learning journey with me. Most of you would have been too busy to track trends in education, ponder on most relevant thoughts or deliberate on career choice, parenting or pedagogy. Find it all here.This week, it consists of: 3 images, 2 thoughts and 1 video.
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Issue #003/ July 28, 2020
Hi! This is a weekly newsletter on education. Once a week, curated by me from amongst the videos I watch and articles that I read. Most of you would have been too busy to track trends in education and deliberate on career choice, parenting or pedagogy. Find it all here.
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I have been a research scientist, a journalist and an educator over 3 decades. I read and I write. With this weekly newsletter, I intend to share what I read, learn and experience while I engage with students, parents and teams of teachers across K-12 schools, higher education institutions and ed-tech organisations.
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Three Images For The Week
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How folk artists have responded to pandemic.

Two Thoughts For The Week
One Video For The Week
Everyone’s online. Your kids have unlimited access to devices. They are using it for learning and yes, gaming. Ask your kid:
This will help you understand your child better, embrace your child’s world of gaming and make deeper connection with your most precious one.
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Educator of the week (By invitation)

Teaching Early Writing to Pre-schoolers
We all know that children use their sense of touch or tactile sense to explore their environment. The aim to develop good hand skills and other pre-writing skills is to prepare the children for the next step, i.e. writing. Children who face difficulties in writing can overcome the issue by working continuously on hand skills.
Pre-writing skills: It is important to strengthen the hand skills so that children can handle small objects. It depends on how to make our students use the small muscles of hands along with the muscles in the forearm which provides strength and stability. Encouraging children to hold crayons while scribbling, eating with spoons/forks, buttoning and zipping clothes will help in strengthening both fine & gross motor skills.
Children need regular practice to strengthen their pincer grip to develop pre-writing skills.
We can follow these guidelines for developing Pre Writing skills:
Table top activities : The writing Desk or Furniture should be the right size. His feet should be flat on the floor and forearms should rest comfortably on the table top (at approximately elbow level). His/her feet should not dangle or swing.
Teach new skills :Show a new movement or shape, repeat the movements over and over again, and provide some physical guidance so he/she can feel how to perform the necessary movements. Let the child imitate you instead of copying from a book or paper.
Play and draw on vertical surfaces :Learning Materials like paper should be kept above eye level. By doing the same the wrist of the child and the hand will be in a position where practicing regularly will give a better control to hands that is required for colouring, painting or printing etc.
Ways to strengthen the shoulder, arm and wrist:
Use table-top easels or bookstands which a child can use while seated. To strengthen the upper body while standing, learning materials like Flannel boards, chalkboards, sticker games, letter and number magnets on the refrigerator can be used . Playing various games which involves a lot of hand movement like tug-of-war, wheelbarrow walking or animal walks. Playing at the park with the playground equipment like climbers and monkey bar will enhance the strength of the hands.
Develop hand skills:
Various kinds of activities done on a regular basis will encourage finger use and enhance strength. For example, when playing with Lego have your student rest his forearms on the table so that he uses his fingers to put the pieces together.
Develop body awareness and directionality :
Pre-writing activities or without Pencil writing:
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Issue #002
Hi! This is a weekly newsletter on education. Once a week, curated by me from amongst the articles, videos and long form articles that I read. Most of you would have been too busy to track trends in education, ponder on most relevant thoughts or deliberate on career choice, parenting or pedagogy. Find it all here.
For whom? Students, educators and parents
When? Every Tuesday
Where? my blog post, register with your e-mail id, it is free.
I have been a research scientist, a journalist and an educator over 3 decades. I read and I write. With this weekly newsletter, I intend to share what I read, learn and experience while I engage with students, parents and teams of teachers across K-12 schools, higher education institutions and ed-tech organisations.
3-2-1 Tuesdays with Ms Niv is a newsletter for you to subscribe and enjoy your learning journey with me. This week, it consists of: 3 images, 2 thoughts and 1 video.
Three Images For The Week


Two Thoughts For The Week
One Video For The Week
I use pencil, a lot. Every day. Even while I do most of my work on my laptop and phone. What about you? I find it satisfying in many ways – the scratchy sound it makes while writing, the way it goes blunt with use and the act of sharpening it, the overwriting, erasing and doodling with it getting lighter and darker strokes by varying the pressure applied…
Here’s a story of this perfect writing instrument that we all begin our writing journey with and continue using over the years.
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Product review : Code with Korbo
Last weekend, I finally decided to open this storage box that has been waiting for my attention for a couple of weeks. It contained a set of gears, cylinders, connectors, cross connectors and some platforms. As I usually do with any product or book that comes to me for review, I see, touch and even smell it before engaging with it.
As I got around to reading the handbook, it was clear that this was more than a building set. It is to develop skills like logical thinking, creativity, collaboration… while working on STEM (science, technology, engineering and math) for preschoolers. The foundational thinking process of Coding!
There are chapters in the handbook like coding and decoding, algorithms and sequences, data analysis and logical thinking. There are instructions for the teacher, worksheets, exercises with pictures of the assembled materials, that are quite simple to understand and execute by any adult who is assisting the child with the learning. I quite liked the chapter on Functions that includes a fairy tale and the student solves tasks, riddles and puzzles leading to the discovery of algorithms.
I think the set is quite an interesting way of learning to code without computers and is something that the child can continue to play and explore even after the actual lesson is finished. Which is attractive for me as an educator. Open ended materials, that serve the primary objective and continue to engage beyond the formal lesson.
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See the clouds floating above. Watch the bees buzz. Follow the ant line.
Get up and smell the coffee. Go out and smell the roses. Put on some perfume.
Lick the chocolate from the mixing bowl. Munch on cucumbers. Have a mango feast.
Listen to music. Put out a wind chime. Read aloud a poem. Feel the wind on your skin.
Enjoy flicking the bubbles of lather while washing up. Play with sand and pebbles.
See. Smell. Taste. Hear. Touch. Be in the moment with each of your 5 senses. Learn, experience, live. A physiological way to manage your and your little one’s psychology during this period of extreme and prolonged isolation.
Here are my tips as an educator and parent for simple, everyday experiences that you can create at home. I have mentioned a couple of possibilities for each sensorial experience to give you an idea. Young children are sensory motor scientists. Once you initiate, they will lead the way.
See
Hear:
This one is my favourite one. I have often used music during teaching and training sessions for both children and adults and the results are simply phenomenal. Most teachers who have used this in their classrooms would agree.
Smell:
Taste:
Touch:
Finally, give your rational mind a break as you take in the environment around you with all your senses. Each one of the senses is as precious as the other in giving you and your child’s emotions an instant fillip.
Have you tried any such activity in the past? Do share if you have. If you have not, go ahead and try one each day of the week at least and on the weekend, give them a go all at once. How did it go, let me know. Looking forward to reading your sensational sensory experiences.
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No eating out. No hugging friends. No inviting people home. No going to people’s homes. No travelling. No theatre. No museum. No hanging out. No school. No college. No canteen. No playground. No…
There are so many “No” category of activities since February 2020 that it feels like a deep dark tunnel with no light at the end in sight. It is confusing for young children and is frustrating for both young and old. Parents, as I speak with them on an ongoing basis, are finding it very difficult to manage their own emotions and regulate the behaviour of their children.
Over these past few months, here is what I have found out while talking to parents that has been helpful. The educator and parent in me looks at it as a great teaching moment for the phenomenal lifeskill of self-regulation.
Why do children and adolescents need to learn to self-regulate, what we as adults know very clearly from the consequences of when we did/when we didn’t? Food, finances, relations…Isn’t it? When we are able to control our behaviour, our emotion, our communication or when we are able to manage procrastination, distraction, dejection – how it influences our decision making capabilities? How those decisions have had a long lasting impact on our own and our dear ones lives and livelihood.
As an educator I have witnessed how self-regulation prepares growing children towards achieving their – not only academic success and avoiding risky behaviour as adolescents but also becoming more productive and healthy as young adults.
Currently, most if not all parents are spending more time with their growing children at home. I see it is a great opportunity to role-model self regulation despite all being under the perfect storm of trying situations, from personal finance and health to the overriding fear of uncertainty.
How to survive this perfect storm and teach life skills to your child? Here are my top 3 tips.
Goal setting : In order to self regulate, it is important to define a Why. For that, setting a goal is key. Giving a voice and choice to children helps in doing that. For eg. the goal could be as basic as – playing. Have a small discussion with your child about it. What does s/he wants to play with (ball/blocks/video game/board game)? Who does s/he want to play with (by themselves/with siblings/with pet/with parent)? Where does s/he want to play (in the back yard/bed room/living room/terrace)? How long does s/he want to play(all morning/all evening/one hour)? What resources s/he would need towards fulfilling this goal (ball/board game/internet/paints)? This will help the child in preparing for it and more often than not, sticking by.
You can role-model it yourself by sharing your plan similarly – whether for a chore or work that you are going to do and circle back by sharing how you could/could not keep to your goal and what could you have done/not done towards the same. This will also help the child to handle either – when all goes per plan or fails. Which factors lead to the success/failure of the plan? Handling the emotions of a failure/partial success of a plan for reasons within/beyond control.
Problem solving : Once the goal is determined and choices are made, as we know, the path to a goal which might be simple or complex is still riddled with uncertainty. It will be in need of chunking and critical thinking. The skill of problem solving by taking apart the problem piece by piece and thinking critically to find a way ahead/around will be needed. What is the kind of flexibility and resilience that is needed to reach that goal that they have set out to achieve?
Adults can use the skills of brainstorming – pooling multiple ideas from different sources; questioning – posing open ended questions of why/how to the problem; reflecting – wondering about alternatives, taking lessons from the past of oneself or others and history. Taking the earlier example of – playing : If the board game pieces/internet is not available what are the other options? If a particular space of choice is not available where else can one play? If the specific play mate is unavailable then who can one play with? If that time length is not possible can it be paced out? This can be applied to complex problems of having limited availability of finances, devices, choices of any kind. The gentle beginnings of this thought process can be initiated and honed by using stories and the characters to discuss the protagonist’s problem, challenges, alternate ways of solving and most definitely by imagining alternate endings of any/all stories that we read or movies that parents watch with their children.
Persisting in the face of a challenge, finding creative work arounds, keeping the head on shoulder with calm and patience are somethings you can share with your child for situations you faced, when you did and when you did not and what was the outcome.
Self restraining: A great skill to build. Preschool teachers practice it with their students regularly by playing the popular game of Freeze Dance/ Statue. I have played it with my students of all years of K12 and actually even undergrad students as well. It is such a full bodied self and group activity that it is enjoyed across ages and promotes quick thinking and restraint at the same time. Playing music and stopping suddenly to freeze motion – calling out for an animal/emotion/character from a movie, any other variation is fun. The reverse, of having the participants move when quiet and freeze when music is on is a good one too. For children it is a practice of restraint as response to a stimulus. For adolescents it builds on this skill and strengthens the part of the brain that helps in keeping a resolve.
As adults, we can role-model this by doing meditation with them. Even working out a quiet time and staying still. Rituals like saying a prayer/gratitude before eating or waiting for all on the table to start/finish a meal or a course of meal is great in building this attitude of self-restraint. You would be able to discuss with your child in a structured way then, what would help in keeping the resolve. How distractions impact one’s journey to a goal and thus what is the result of deviating from the flight path on arrival at the destination.
All of us have been forced into making a sudden transition in our lives due to this pandemic. Emotions of sadness, frustration, aggression, depression are natural. However, the key is to not allow these emotions to be all consuming. It is a life lesson for one and all. We would need to take the responsibility of our own selves, our family and also of those who are finding it a little bit more difficult to grapple with uncertainty because of the uniquely specific situation they are in.
How are you setting an example of being a survivor in your family? In your community? Please share. We are all in the storm together but not in the same boat. We can learn to row better from each other.
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In absence of the safety net of vaccine and in order to put millions of children world over back into school, blended learning is emerging as the mid path for schools and for higher education. This year for sure and who knows, perhaps going forward as well. Shall we prepare for it then? Educators are getting ready with their newly/additionally acquired tech prowess for online teaching. Students are trying and mostly succeeding with a smile on. Parents, it is your turn now.
Screen, Space and Schedule for school at home. I am suggesting a 3 ‘S’ mantra for parents to keep in mind while helping their child’s journey with blended learning this academic year.1.Screen : What screen size is ideal for e-learning? the learning sites make it convenient for various devices – mobile, tablets, laptops and desktops. But what is the best for your child? The online lessons are supported by quiz, quick text responses, on camera show and tell, sing alongs, theatre sessions, read alouds … besides just informal chats with teachers and peers when it is nice to see the class mates large and clear. So would a horizontal screen of a smart phone do? ummm… in a pinch may be. For some level of tertiary education… may be. But for primary and secondary education that is working on blended learning, a larger screen, a full key board and clear audio would definitely make more sense.
If it is not a possibility to give your child/ren access to laptop/desktop all through their e-learning sessions, you could consider sharing the big screen devices in rotation so that everyone gets to use the large screen and full key board. You can also consider some improvisations like attaching accessories to the mobile. Noise cancelling head phones, a key board, a second hand monitor, all of which could be affordable solutions that would significantly enhance the online learning experience. It is also easier to monitor activity of the child/ren and limit the access to the device to manage screen time with a larger screen than handing them a smartphone.
2. SpaceA dedicated space for learning would be very necessary to have for the child to be comfortable with blended learning scenario. Your child/ren are going to spend time here ‘going’ to school and not just homework or test prep. Many of us as adults have created dedicated spaces for working from home during this long lockdown. Carve out such a space for your child/ren as well. Where there is quiet and comfort. The furniture is ergonomic and devices can be placed to work, with charging access, space to keep their textbook, notebook and relevant stationery, bottle of water and school bag. Pretty much replicating their class desks and cubbies.
If it is not a possibility to give dedicated rooms to your child/ren, corners in dining room, living room, bed room can be set up specifically with desk, chair, shelving/school bag and charging station. Places where members of the family do not play games and watch television. Spaces that have enough light and ventilation like the loft, the staircase landing, spare bathroom, a mezzanine, the extra bedroom of the house converted temporarily to workspace for entire family to learn/work from. That leaves the living room for gathering, watching TV, playing games, pets and extended family to still carry on with their routine without interfering with school/office work.
3. Schedule
This is the first time in history that adults and children both are working from home. Which means that schedules become even more important. This is not a vacation time for child/ren. They have to attend classes, do the tests, submit the assignments and appear for exams. None of this is going away anytime soon. It would become very difficult to play catch up on grade appropriate learning of school curriculum if they are lax now. Discuss with their class teacher/s on the timetable of online classes. See if there are enough breaks and discuss if you think more/less breaks than scheduled would help in your child’s learning. Teachers and the school will thank you for the feedback. Everyone is figuring it out so more we collaborate on making it work, more will be the chances of success. The partnership between parent and teacher for child development has taken a new dimension which requires parents to fill in more in education and the teacher, in emotional development.
Moving out from the designated study space to the dining area during snack and lunch times will be good to consider. Even for you when you are working from home and enjoy little breaks together through the day. It would energise everyone to have an off-screen time with real interactions and possibly play with the pet or even do part of a pending household chore that has been allocated to each family member. Perhaps even catch a quick nap. Doing something like painting, craft, making music, journaling with pen on paper, making 2D/3D project, skipping rope, putting a ball through hoop, working on a big puzzle over days would trigger different parts of the brain and are great off-screen activities.

When times are stressful and unpredictable, a predictable schedule is a great way of managing emotions, getting spouse/extended family’s help to manage your child/ren’s needs and being productive at the same time.
So go on, discuss with your family how you can make Screen, Space and Schedule work for each of you. Then don’t hesitate to review it periodically and tweak. While at it, keep in touch with other school parents and share notes. Have your children set up play dates with video chats. Play online quiz and Antakshari. Visit online museums and travel shows together.
Schools are opening soon. Teachers are prepping for it. How are you setting up your child/ren for blended learning? Please share your plans with me and the readers of this blog. Do reply to this post and subscribe. It is easy and free 🙂
P.S. Here’s a picture from a science project done by govt. school children from the district of Belgaum, Karnataka, India. Projecting mobile phone on large screen. Meant to be used by the schools that do not have projectors or smart boards. How about making it work for blended learning at home?
All the photographs in my post are taken by me on my phone camera during the course of my education advisory for different schools.
“Mummy I don’t like this (online) class. I can’t share this rubber (eraser) with my friend”. How can parents and teachers help this little one in her personal, social and emotional development when physical classrooms are closed?
Preschools are normally alive with the sounds of little children singing Good Morning and Hello songs… the playground abuzz with children on slides and see-saws, squealing with joy as they go on the swings and merry go rounds…Teachers with their little ones in tow going about their days with hugs and high fives… all of this has come to a screeching halt. The toys remain in their boxes. The educational aids on the shelves. The display boards have a film of dust and the artworks are curling up and fading.
Within days of the #lockdown, the internet exploded with resources and tips for creative ways of learning. The middle school and senior school teachers took to online learning and teaching. The primary school took to working on quiz and worksheets online. But, what about the preschool? The resources available online are not quite meant for early years of ages up to 8. What should a parent do? How can preschool teachers be the friend and guide to the parents to help sustain the learning and development of their young children?
Here are my 3 top considerations for teachers and parents as they lean-in on each other:
Here are some of the things I know that teachers and parents have started doing:
Learning has shifted out of our preschool buildings. Schools and teachers have not done this before! everyone is learning at the pace of crisis. Educators, especially preschool teachers are trying to figure out how to create normalcy during the time of a global reset.
Parents need to enrol their child in preschools to lean-in on the teacher and institutional expertise and the teacher has to trust and support the parent to extend learning to their child. School leadership would need to train the teachers as well as provision for educational aids for both teachers and parents.


Do share your thoughts, suggestions, photos of what you have done for your preschooler with me and the readers as your replies. Please feel free to share this post and subscribe with your email, it is free. I will continue to share the learnings from teachers, parents and my own experiences of this all new world of education.
